One well-deserved award

May 5, 2011 • Posted in blindness, travel, Uncategorized, writing by

Harper and I are making progress! Yesterday morning he guided me downtown to teach my memoir class for senior citizens at the Chicago Cultural Center. We made it back and forth safely, and he didn’t cower once. “Attaboy, Harper!” Later that afternoon I had him guide me to Michigan Avenue to the pool where I swim. No problem. “Good dog, Harper! Way to go!”

Our successes yesterday make me feel confident about heading to Union Station with Harper this afternoon. We’re taking a train down to Champaign again, this time for a very, very happy occasion: my young friend Sandra Murillo won an award!

Loyal blog readers know about Sandra Murillo – she lost her sight when she was three and has always attended regular public schools. I met Sandra when she was still in high school – I interviewed her for a Chicago Tribune story exploring how kids who are blind are educated in the public school system. Sandra is a very impressive young woman – she’s bilingual, a great writer, sweet, smart, and funny, too. The thing that impressed me most about Sandra when I first met her, though? Her math skills! From my Tribune article:

In geometry, however, learning can be far more complicated. Using raised line drawings to read graphics, push pins and rubber bands to form angles, and special paper and pens to create diagrams, Sandra is managing a 96% in geometry so far.

Sandra and I have kept in touch ever since that article came out. We talk a lot about writing – she’s known for years that she wants to be a journalist, and she is getting A’s and B’s (mostly A’s, actually!) at the University of Illinois. The award she won will help pay her tuition next year so she can continue pursuing her degree. An email from Maureen Gilbert at U of I’s Disability Resources and Educational Services (DRES) described the award:

The James E. Seybold Scholarship was created by his mother to provide financial support to students with disabilities who are pursuing degrees in the College of Media. As a soldier in the U.S. Army, James E. Seybold became disabled as a result of injuries sustained during the Korean War. He enrolled in the University of Illinois to pursue a degree in communications and journalism and was extremely grateful for the services provided by the Division of Disability Resources and Educational Services which led to his successful career with the Paralyzed Veterans of America.

It’s hard to think of anyone more deserving of this award then Sandra Murillo. She had to draw on her own bravery and courage after surviving a terrible car crash on her way home for Thanksgiving Break during her first semester at the University of Illinois. Sandra’s father was critically injured in the accident, but thankfully he survived. Sandra’s beloved brother — and only sibling — Chris died at the scene. Sandra walked away with minor injuries. Well, minor physical injuries. The emotional injuries are, of course, more serious.

That's my beautiful friend Sandra Murillo.

Award-winner Sandra Murillo.

Working through grief is unbelievably difficult. Sandra did not return to school until January, when she completed the finals she had missed and took on a whole new load of Spring semester classes. She made the Dean’s List.

When Sandra returned home for the summer, some people told her mother that the crash must have been easier on Sandra, her being blind and all. The reason she’d done so well in school that Spring was because she hadn’t experienced severe trauma, they said. “After all, Sandra couldn’t see what was going on.”

This attitude bothered Sandra so much that she struck up her courage and shared some of her own personal thoughts about the accident in a post here last August. I called the post Sandra the Survivor, and she definitely deserves that title.

I am so very, very proud of Sandra, and so impressed with Disability Resources and Educational Services at the University of Illinois for choosing her as the recipient of this award. I can’t wait to get to Champaign and give Sandra a big hug at the ceremony tonight.

All aboard!

Cheryl On May 5, 2011 at 10:21 am

Congratulations to Sandra! Enjoy your time celebrating in Champaign.

Lauren On May 5, 2011 at 11:29 am

I have to say, this makes me think of the simpering idiot who used monosyllables and baby talk to communicate with my Ph.D. educated husband. Tom finally said, gently but with an edge, “Actually, it’s only my eyesight that is affected, not my mind.” Enjoy your trip. And as for Harper, while I hear a slight clenched-teeth fierceness to the “Attaboy,” I also see glimmers of light. YAY!! For you, Harper, and Sandra, who sees far more than many sighted people. (Geesh. People can be so incredibly DUMB!!!)

Sandra On May 5, 2011 at 12:08 pm

Beth, stop it — you’re making me cry! *smile* I’m *very* glad you decided to come to C-U to the ceremony. Unfortunately, my parents will not be able to come because the ceremony is in the evening and they work tomorrow morning, so it really means a lot to me (and my parents) that you are taking the time to come! All we have to do now is cross our fingers that the train is not too delayed. I’m glad everything’s working out with Harper.

bethfinke On May 5, 2011 at 2:43 pm

Yes, fingers — and paws! — crossed that the train gets there on time. And no need to thank me for coming. Trust me, the pleasure is *all* mine, so glad I can be there.
Now, I’d better get going — wouldn’t it be dumb (not to mention embarassing!) for me to miss the train in Chicago…!

Susie On May 5, 2011 at 2:03 pm

Congratulations Sandra! What a wonderful spirit you have!
How lovely that Beth is your mentor and friend!
Thank you Beth, for sharing this hopeful message with us. Congratulations as well Beth to you and Harper! Wishing you both Safe and Joyful Travels!

Sandra On May 7, 2011 at 11:24 am

Thanks! I too am glad to have Beth as a mentor and friend. I was telling her I hadn’t seen her in person for about six years, but it sure doesn’t feel like that since we’re constantly in contact.

Carl On May 5, 2011 at 2:09 pm

That Sandra is one brave woman. I look forward to reading her stories when she graduates and starts her writing career.

Sandra On May 7, 2011 at 11:25 am

Hi Carl,

Thanks. Actually you can already begin reading my stories or, as I call them, “adventures.” Feel free to check out my blog at http://www.sandramurillo.wordpress.com

Maria On May 5, 2011 at 2:10 pm

Atta, boy, Harper and atta girls, Beth and Sandra…Harper for his improvement, Sandra for her award (how wonderful!) and Beth for her perseverance. Way to go!!

Jenny On May 5, 2011 at 2:45 pm

I enjoy reading Sandra’s blog, so great to hear she’s won an award. Brilliant that you and Harper can go along to celebrate.
Enjoy the trip, and I’m glad he’s working well for you 🙂

becky On May 5, 2011 at 7:52 pm

Congratulations Sandra! Wow and how nice that you will be able to be there to celebrate with her. Glad Harper is doing well. Hope it is a smooth trip.

Annelore Chapin On May 6, 2011 at 5:39 pm

Hooray for Sandra and congratulations! I am very grateful to have met her through your blog, Beth. She is a real hero and it is sad that some people are simply so ignorant and careless in their thinking as to make statements like the one made to Sandra’s mother.
A fatal traffic accident is always extremely dramatic, but I cannot imagine what it is like going through it in total darkness.

And congratulations to Harper too, he’s getting there!! And he’s getting YOU there too.

Annelore

nancyb On May 7, 2011 at 6:35 am

Yeah Harper! So wonderful that the Seeing Eye folks came out. And congratulations to Sandra.

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