Afraid of the blindfold

August 24, 2011 • Posted in baseball, blindness, Flo, guide dogs, Seeing Eye dogs, Uncategorized by

A trainer from the Seeing Eye was in the Chicago area visiting other graduates last week. Eric had heard I broke my foot. Did I want him to stop by and see how things were going with Harper?

That's Eric and me (and Harper) at the White Sox game.

I cradled the phone receiver between my ear and shoulder and leaned down to tighten the laces on my orthopedic shoes. “I’m still not supposed to walk much,” I sighed. “Seems like it’d be a waste of time for you to come all the way downtown just to watch us walk around the block.” Eric assured me I wouldn’t be wasting his time. He arrived before lunch, admired my shoes, and followed as Harper led me out the door.

Harper did not disappoint. Well, I mean, he did disappoint, but as long as Eric was here to help with potential problems, we gave him a good show. Harper cowered on the sidewalk for no apparent reason, slowed down to a dreadful pace as we neared an intersection, and refused to turn right at a corner where we usually went left. The good news? Eric didn’t notice Harper trembling or shaking when he cowered. “He doesn’t seem afraid,” Eric said. “He just wants to do the right thing, and when he isn’t sure what the right thing is, he balks.”

Eric suggested I try to boost Harper’s confidence. Cheer him on, tickle his back side when we’re traveling at a good pace, tell him over and over what a great job he’s doing. “He’s a sensitive guy, and he needs to know he’s doing right.” Eric’s last bit of advice brought me right back to my teenage years with Flo: “stand up straight!” I need to pull my shoulders back, refrain from leaning over Harper when I give commands. If I speak with authority when I give a command, my own confidence should rub off on Harper.

Harper also loves to retrace his steps. “He’s almost shepherdy!” Eric marveled. It’s true that Harper’s homing instinct can be a bit extreme, but it came in handy when I asked Eric if he was hungry for lunch. Harper knew exactly how to get to Hackney’s.

Over a salad and a grilled cheddar, avocado & tomato sandwich I asked Eric how he ended up being a Seeing Eye dog trainer. “I was a puppy raiser!” he said with pride. “Born and raised in New Jersey, and never left.” Eric’s family lives close to Morristown (where The Seeing Eye is located), and he raised his first puppy, a Lab named Yorick, when he was ten. “My sister still volunteers for the Seeing Eye, she’s raising a puppy now.” Eric has so much energy that I assumed he was in his early twenties and must have applied to be a Seeing Eye trainer right out of college. “Oh, no!” he said. I could tell from his voice that he was smiling. “You’re gonna laugh when I tell you what stopped me: I was afraid to go under the blindfold.”

I didn’t laugh. I understood. It’s scary, not being able to see.

A story in the NJ Monthly explains why the blindfolds are necessary in training:

For the first two months, the trainers walk the dogs and help them learn where to stop and how to lead owners around obstacles on the ground and overhead. The dogs receive no treats or punishment; they are rewarded with praise or, when necessary, disciplined verbally or through the absence of praise—or occasionally corrected with a tug on the leash that does not hurt the dog. Throughout the process, the trainers rate the progress and characteristics of each dog on a computer system, and at certain times the dog is tested with a blindfolded trainer. “At the midterm [blindfold test], a supervisor will be standing close and giving some help,” says apprentice instructor Kaelin Coughlin, 24. “The final blindfold is a test to be sure the dog is safe and ready, and the supervisor stands further behind.”

Stacey the bartender took our plates while Harper remained still at our feet. As she refilled our diet Coke and iced tea, I asked Eric what he studied in college. He said he got a degree in history, and after a so-called “normal” job he finally mustered up his courage and applied at The Seeing Eye. He’s been training dogs for three years now.

We talked about other things: Eric’s life on a small farm in New Jersey, his wife’s love of horses, and his love for baseball. The White Sox were in town, Eric didn’t have anything scheduled for the next evening, so we agreed to meet for a game. “I can see how Harper handles a crowd!” Eric said with a laugh, acknowledging how much he loves his job. “But I’m not gonna lie to ya’ — I’m still scared to death of the blindfold!”

Lauren Bishop-Weidner On August 24, 2011 at 9:23 am

I’m with Eric–blindfolded through life? No, thanks, I’ll admire you and Tom but retain my eyesight if you don’t mind. Seriously, I do so understand that fear…. On Harper: He sounds so much like Mark, who in the end did fail to make the mark (hyuk, hyuk). Mark was unable to overcome the indecisiveness, and his hyper-sensitivity just complicated everything, especially against Tom’s failed attempts to hide his own exasperation, stress, and anxiety under clenched-teeth pretenses at supportive praise. We call Mark our special-needs dog, and he is: He remains incredibly sensitive, incredibly smart, incredibly needy. And incredibly lovable. Like Tom, you are an experienced, successful guide dog handler, and you will figure this out. By the way, them shoes is sexy! 😉

bethfinke On August 26, 2011 at 10:49 am

Oh, Lauren, you have such a way with words. As much as I hate to admit it, I can relate to Tom’s “exasperation, stress, and anxiety under clenched-teeth pretenses at supportive praise.” Had a very bad day w/Harper yesterday and was about to throw in the towel. And then, this morning: a perfect walk around two blocks. So I’m hanging in there.
So far.
And sexy shoes? Hmmm. Hate to say it, but maybe *you*oughta get your eyes checked.

Cheryl On August 24, 2011 at 9:23 am

Another great story about one of your interesting friends. Nice photo. Flo will be pleased to see how srtaight you are sitting up.

bethfinke On August 26, 2011 at 10:50 am

Ha! I’ll have to be sure to show this photo to Flo…

penn nelson On August 24, 2011 at 10:23 am

Thank you, I am learning so much from you! My daughter when in school at the U of I had a class where she must spend a day as a parapalgic in a wheel chair. She had to go to all her classes, bathroom and lunch, dinner in the wheel chair. What a learning experience, maybe we all should spend a day behind the blindfold or in a wheelchair!

Penn

bethfinke On August 26, 2011 at 10:55 am

Oh, I hate to think we all have to spend a day under blindfold or in a wheelchair to have some understanding of what it’s like to live with a disability. But then again, maybe there is no other way to really imagine it. My roommate in my undergraduate days at U of I also took a class where she had to spend the day in a wheelchair, and I still remember her telling me how difficult it was to open the door at the Foreign Language Building from her low vantage point. I thought of that every time I opened the very heavy door to that building afterwards, some strange things do stick with you!

Hava On August 24, 2011 at 10:30 am

This story reminds me of an experience a couple of years ago. I bid on an item in the Seeing Eye’s auction and won a chance to spend a day with Seeing Eye instructors around New York City as they trained dogs. After an hour of this following them around NYC, they told me it was my turn. They blindfolded me and had me put a harness on a dog and then I was to work with that dog the rest of the morning. It was terrifying – at first. It felt claustrophobic. I was afraid to take even the tiniest baby step. The instructors were very encouraging though. “Just follow your dog.” they said. “Trust your dog.” I screwed up my courage and took a small step and then bigger steps and after a while was confidently navigating the streets of New York like a pro, thanks to Simba, by guide dog for a day. It was one of the most thrilling experiences of my life, and I have had a life of thrilling experiences, believe me!

bethfinke On August 26, 2011 at 10:59 am

Hava,
I *do* believe you when you say you’ve had a life of thrilling experiences – this one you described is especially cool. Good for you for mustering up your courage and taking, well, such a big step!

Jenny On August 25, 2011 at 3:53 am

That’s an interesting reason for not becoming a guide dog trainer! Its always nice to get a chat with the trainer when the hard work is done. They are very interesting people!

bethfinke On August 26, 2011 at 11:00 am

They sure are!

Maria On August 26, 2011 at 11:02 am

Thank goodness for people like Eric! What a great opportunity his visit to Chicago turned out to be for you, Harper and him….he got to go to a ballgame and everything. Nice! And BTW: I’d be afraid of the blindfold as well.

Keep using that forceful voice with your shoulders straight with that guy of yours!

Bob On August 26, 2011 at 12:54 pm

You really think standing up straight makes that big a difference?

marilee On August 27, 2011 at 6:03 pm

I laughed when you said that Harper took you straight back to Hackney’s for lunch! Does he know it by voice command? Reminds of the Lassie TV show. So glad that Eric could spend some time with you and Harper. Eyebrows up!

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