Shining stars

June 10, 2012 • Posted in Beth Finke, blindness, Mike Knezovich, Uncategorized by

Mr. Peabody, set the wayback machine to 1986.

Alice Gervace LaPlante (left) and my friend Lynn LaPlante, taken at one of Lynn’s concerts when Alice was still getting out and about.

After a year of weekly visits to read to a newly-blind woman, it’s time for University of Illinois senior John Foreman to graduate. John brings his girlfriend, a music performance major, along on his final visit, and when Lynn LaPlante pulls her viola from its case, the blind woman’s crooked old rental house transforms into a resounding recital hall.

I wouldn’t hear from Lynn LaPlante for decades. I lost track of John Foreman after he graduated. And as it turns out, So did Lynn.

When Mike Knezovich and I moved to our Printers Row neighborhood here in 2003, we had no idea that Lynn LaPlante and her marvelous husband Mike Allaway lived here, too. When Lynn saw my memoir, Long Time, No See on display at Sandmeyer’s Bookstore, she scribbled out a note with her phone number and left it with Ellen Sandmeyer. Ellen called me. I called Lynn. A friendship was born.

In the years since then I was fortunate to meet Lynn LaPlante-Allaway’s’s beloved mother, Alice Gervace LaPlante. Anyone who met Lynn’s mother loved her, and I fell right in line. Alice died of complications related to Alzheimer’s disease on May 31, and a Printers Row neighbor generously offered to drive Whitney and me to the wake, where I had the privilege of meeting Lynn’s sister-in-law, her nieces and nephews, her old neighbors and her childhood friends.

Lynn’s mother Alice had been the music director of St. Edna Catholic Church in Arlington Heights for nearly 40 years, and a writer for the Chicago Tribune was so taken after reading Alice’s obituary that she contacted Lynn after the funeral. “They said they like to showcase people who have touched a lot of lives,” Lynn told me. That describes my Mom perfectly!” From that Chicago Tribune article:

Mrs. LaPlante, the mother of eight, enjoyed music from Bach to Benny Goodman. She taught piano out of her home and a local studio for many years and instilled a love of music in all her children, each of whom learned to play at least one instrument.

“I wouldn’t be doing what I’m doing today had it not been for my mother,” said LaPlante-Allaway, the principal violist with the Chicago Jazz Philharmonic. “She guided me every step of the way.”

I haven’t seen a whole lot of Lynn the past couple of years – she devoted the majority of that time to her mother, who had always been so devoted to Lynn and her music career.

Lynn played a viola solo at Alice’s funeral Tuesday, and she brought her viola with her on visits to her mom. The beloved Alice Gervase La Plante spent her final years surrounded by the same breathtaking sound her young daughter brought to me all those years ago, and thanks to her mother’s guidance early on, Lynn pleases all sorts of audiences with her music now. When I emailed Lynn to ask for a photo to publish with this blog, she said she’d send it asap. And then in that uncanny way of hers she ended her message by showing pride, humility and appreciation for her career all at the same time. “I leave in an hour to go play with Earth, Wind and Fire at Ravinia. If that isn’t the most surreal sentence I’ve ever typed, I don’t know what is.”

Thank you, John Foreman, wherever you are. You could never have known how your decision to volunteer as a 20-year-old young man would not only help me through those first unsettling months of blindness, but live on to sustain me decades later through my friendship with Lynn and her mother Alice. What a gift.

Laura On June 10, 2012 at 7:38 pm

Another great article / post. Well done and poignant.

bethfinke On June 10, 2012 at 9:47 pm

Thank you, Laura. I had a hard time figuring out how to express all this in 500 words or so. Feels good to hear you say I may have gotten it right. And PS, you must know that when it comes to the “moms we miss” category, your mom is high on the list.

pattibrehler On June 11, 2012 at 6:13 am

What a winding and wonderful synchronicity! Thanks for sharing.

bethfinke On June 11, 2012 at 10:47 am

Perfect phrase, there: winding and wonderful synchronicity. Again, a bit difficult to write it in a way that made sense, glad you could follow the winding path without needing a scorecard.

Carl On June 11, 2012 at 1:33 pm

So interesting, the ripple effect that results from the choice to do volunteer work. As one of my favorite bands from the seventies might say, well, that’s the way of the world. “Plant a flower, and it grows.”

Kim On June 11, 2012 at 8:18 pm

A beautiful story, Beth. Proof that our actions impact the people we meet on life’s journey. How serendipitous that you reconnected with Lynn and could support her during the loss of her mother.

MaryEllen Schneider On June 13, 2012 at 2:40 pm

Lovely story, Beth, and well told, as always. I’m hoping to hear that John Foreman learns of your post and gets in touch. That will truly bring things full circle.

penn nelson On June 14, 2012 at 10:32 am

Would that be the same John Foreman who is editor and president of our C-U newspaper The News Gazette? Let me know if you want me to contact him for you or get you information on how to contact him!

Penn

bethfinke On June 14, 2012 at 6:58 pm

Same name, different guy. Not sure, but I think the John Formean you know is a bit older? My John Foreman was 20 years old in 1985…

Lynn LaPlante Allaway On September 5, 2012 at 1:10 pm

Oh, Beth. I love you and you know my Mom loved you, too. (But as I said to you at the wake, she loved everyone, so hey, don’t get a big head.) Thank you, thank you, thank you for such a beautiful tribute to my sweet Mama. And thank you for being such a dear friend. I love you, Lynn

bethfinke On September 5, 2012 at 4:41 pm

Okay, okay I won’t get a big head from knowing Alice liked me. My head *is* growing from hearing you regarding me as a dear friend, though.Thank YOU, Lynn.

John Foreman On September 9, 2012 at 11:40 am

Here I am Beth! I am the elusive and mildly Luddite John Foreman. I loved your piece. Twenty years after knowing her, Mrs. LaPlante is still very clear in my memory as a truly lovely human being. She radiated warmth and gentleness (right down to the backyard wildlife), had an eruptive laugh and joyful sense of humor, and immediately apparent depth and intelligence. What a beautiful mark to leave the the world: a brood of bright, humorous, achieving, diverse people (hi Lynn), and numberless friends and pupils. It was a privilege to know Mrs. LaPlante, indeed. In addition, thank you, Beth, for teaching me about volunteering and tons about life in our mail-reading conversations back in 1991-3. Hi to Gus and Mike. Finally, I wouldn’t wrap a fish in the News Gazette, let alone edit it. Just kidding. I’m not that guy, but I am a happly married father of three running my family business. Love to talk more… -John

bethfinke On September 12, 2012 at 8:18 pm

I’d love to talk more, too, John! Thanks so much for leaving a

bethfinke On September 12, 2012 at 8:19 pm

Wow, I guess I was so excited I became verklempt. Will email you privately, GREAT to hear from you —

Kim On September 13, 2012 at 8:51 am

Oh, it warms my heart that you’ve reconnected with John. Yay!!!

bethfinke On September 13, 2012 at 9:36 am

Oh, Kim, it warms my heart, too. I’m bubbling.

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