Blindsided at Printers Row Lit Fest

June 8, 2009 • Posted in blindness, memoir writing, Uncategorized by

A year ago I gave a presentation in the BookKids department at BookPeople in Austin, Tex. I started the presentation by explaining that even though my eyes are open I can’t see. “When I was little, I went to school just like you — and then when I lost my sight I had to go to school and learn to do things all over again,” I told the kids.

Only trouble was, there were no kids in the audience — I had no idea that I was talking to a bunch of adults!

A similar thing happened at the Memoir Writing Workshop at Printers Row Lit Fest yesterday, only in reverse. Wanda Bridgeforth, a student from the memoir-writing class I teach for Chicago’s senior citizens, presented with me, and I assumed the audience was full of seniors like her, eager to learn how to get started writing their own life stories. I talked about how writing can be therapeutic, how memoir-writing in particular is good for memory. Searching for the right word really makes our brains work hard, I told my audience. Knowing that we’ll be writing these memories down on paper makes it all feel more official. That makes us think even harder about the words we use — that’s good for our brains. Wanda chimed in then, saying that when she sees the doctor the very first thing he asks her is, “Are you still writing?” When she answers yes, he says, “Keep it up! It’s good for you!”

It wasn’t until the q&a session afterwards that it started dawning on me. The voices asking the questions were young voices, and if that wasn’t enough of a clue, the questions they asked betrayed their youth. I’d misjudged my audience. They were closer to senior high than they were to senior citizenry.

It stinks being blind sometimes! Had I been able to see, I would have adjusted my talk, spoken more about creative ways to get personal essays and stories published and less about how memoir — writing is good for keeping our brains alert.

Ah, well, couldn’t spend too much time fretting about all that. Session over, it was time to celebrate with my sisters, Flo, Wanda and her family at the author hospitality suite. My sister Marilee sat next to me there, and she quietly acknowledged that my suspicions were right. Most of the audience probably had come looking for something different from our session. She was quick to point out, though, that the younger people could have snuck out early if they wanted. None of them did, she said. “They liked you and Wanda!” We toasted to that sentiment over our sandwiches and sodas, and then again later that afternoon — at Hackney’s, of course!

At last! The great Billy Balducci and the irrepressible Flo meet.

At last! The great Billy Balducci and the irrepressible Flo meet.

Our Hackney's bartender Billy makes a mean drink, and he takes a mean picture, too. Left to right: Flo, sisters Bev, yours truly, Marilee, and our chaperone Mike

Our Hackney

Sandra M On June 8, 2009 at 11:33 pm

Hey, at least you wern’t speaking to a wall! *big grin* Seriously, that’s never happened to me, but I definitely understand how it must feel! Poor kiddos! They were probably like “why are these ladies telling us all this!”

Sandra

bethfinke On June 9, 2009 at 12:27 am

Oh, Sandra, you are so right — at least I wasn’t talking to a wall! Thanks for your positive attitude, AND for giving me a laugh!

Lora On June 9, 2009 at 1:27 pm

That Billy Balducci is hot!

Beth On June 9, 2009 at 2:11 pm

That’s what I hear…

Bob On June 9, 2009 at 2:25 pm

I wouldn’t feel bad about this, Beth –maybe those younger ones learned they should live a little before starting to write their memoirs!

Patricia On June 10, 2009 at 2:19 pm

As with all events it is important to celebrate that there were actually people in-attendance. And these people will age(it is apparently inevitable). They are now prepped for memoir writing in old-age.

Beth Finke, blog moderator On June 10, 2009 at 2:50 pm

Yes, that’s true. As long as they’re able to remember what they learned all those years from now!

Bev On June 10, 2009 at 3:45 pm

I don’t think you needed to be senior to get something out of your presentation. Those in attendance were interested in writing memoirs and you and your star pupil presented how to with fun beautifully. There were a few that were jealous they couldn’t join your class, but hey, we all have disappointments in our life.

bonnie On June 10, 2009 at 5:06 pm

oh, beth, you have such appeal, such a sense of humor and such good advice for writers/readers of any age, it makes no difference… you can give the same talk to all and everyone would get something out of it.. just think, those young people will be old before long and they have a real head start now on writing their memoirs from the long view!!

bethfinke On June 11, 2009 at 1:58 pm

Ah, yes. One more benefit of growing older –you must be in your FIFTIES to enroll in the “Me, Myself and I” memoir-writing course I teach for senior citizens at the Chicago Cultural Center!

marilee On June 11, 2009 at 10:10 pm

I was totally disappointed when I couldn’t attend the free movie with Flo because I wasn’t old enough. I know exactly how those young writers feel!! It’s just not fair!

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