Away and back

May 22, 2012 • Posted in Seeing Eye dogs, travel, Uncategorized, visiting schools by
Kids at  Daniel Street School in Lindenhurst, NY.

Kids from Daniel Street School in Lindenhurst, NY.

The first question during the Q&A part of our presentation at Daniel Street School last Monday wasn’t a question at all. “I have an opinion,” the 8-year-old declared.

What? He didn’t think it was fair to make sweet dogs like Whitney work? He thought all dogs should be allowed on planes, not just service dogs? Maybe a solid -colored blouse would have paired better with my outfit than this busy thing I’d chosen?

I quickly thought through some potential responses, then gave him the go-ahead. “Let’s hear it,” I said, taking in a big breath to ready myself.

”I like your dogdowag!” he exclaimed. I had to laugh. Who wouldn’t like Whitney? She had demonstrated her appreciation for this, her first trip to Long Island, before our presentation even started. As the first and second graders gathered in the gym, she flipped over on her back (not easy to do with a harness on) and kicked her legs in glee. She sat still for most of the presentation, but would periodically pirouette. Chew on her leash. Roll on her back. No surprise that a first grader raised his hand later to ask, “How do you keep your dog calm?”

My previous Seeing Eye dogs – Dora, Hanni and Harper – were stars at sitting still underfoot. Whitney, on the other hand, is a star at urban guiding, and for this I am very grateful. But like most city-dwellers, Whitney can’t sit still for long.

”Whitney and I are still getting to know each other,” I said, acknowledging I am not sure yet what works best when I need her to calm down. I’d been sitting in a folding chair while all this was going on, so my first step was simply to stand up and shake the leash a bit. Whitney turned over and stood up, too. “How about I show you what I do when I want her to get me out of a room?”

“Whitney, outside!” She led me past dozens of spellbound first and second graders to a door to the hallway. “Good girl, Whitney!” The kids cheered. We turned around to go back, but before sitting down again, I put Whitney through her daily obedience ritual in front of the kids.

  • ”Whitney, sit!” She sat.
  • ”Whitney, down!” She plopped to the floor.
  • ”Whitney, sit!” She sat back up.
  • ”Whitney, heel!” I walked a few steps, Whitney walked alongside me.
  • I walked backwards then, and commanded, ”Whitney, come!” She looped around behind me and sat at my side.
  • ”Whitney, rest!” I put my palm in front of her nose for a second, then stepped back a few steps. Whitney stayed right where she was until I returned to her side.

“Good girl, Whitney!” She stayed calm for the rest of the presentation. Francine Rich, my award-winning publisher at Blue Marlin Publications, had picked Whitney and me up to deliver us to the school, and she stayed all morning to help with navigation and book signings. Our Urbana friend Sunny moved to Long Island a year-and-a-half ago and generously offered to pick Whitney and me up after our presentation and drive us to the airport. We had some time before our flight, so Sunny wisely suggested we stop along the way at a state park that had a fenced-in tennis court.

The Seeing Eye discourages us from letting our dogs run free in open parks or fields. Sounds cruel to some dog lovers, but just think about it: without being able to see, we can’t keep an eye on them. If a baseball field or a tennis court is totally enclosed, however, we can turn our Seeing Eye dogs loose and let them run. And that’s exactly what Whitney did. After taking some time to smell the length of the fence, she ran. I called her, she raced back towards Sunny and me, then took off again. Run away, dash back. Away and back. Away and back. Away and back.

Our flight home was delayed, and a worn-out Whitney slept underfoot while I sat at the gate noshing on a breakfast bagel sweet Francine had bought for me that morning. A couple approached to say hello and ask about Whitney. “How old is your dog?” When I told them she was only two, they were amazed. “She’s so calm!”

 

Lauren Bishop-Weidner On May 22, 2012 at 11:59 am

Heartwarming, poignant, tinged with humor and humanity. I love your blog!

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:22 am

Aw, shucks, Lauren. Thanks. And I love *you* for leaving such a sweet comment!

italianhandful On May 22, 2012 at 12:13 pm

Sweet and real. Touches me to read from the inside out.

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:23 am

Inside out. Hadn’t thought of it that way, but you are exactly right. Thanks for the insight —

Stephanie On May 22, 2012 at 12:28 pm

Beth,

You were in our neck of the woods!!! Feel bad we couldn’t have gotten together. Next time – promise!

Stephanie

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:26 am

Oh, Steph, I didn’t even bother letting you know I’d be on Long Island. Back before I traveled so much, I would have thought NJ was nearby. I’ve learned, though — you’ve got a lot of bridges to cross, and traffic to deal with, to get from NJ to Long Island! I feel honored that we were able to get together while I was training at the Seeing Eye, a visit I’ll always treasure.

pattibrehler On May 22, 2012 at 2:35 pm

Wonderful! (This is what I always say about my Future Leader Dog puppy when I get the question, “how do you get her so calm?” A TIRED PUPPY IS A GOOD PUPPY!)

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:27 am

Ah. I may borrow that line.

Kim On May 22, 2012 at 4:41 pm

I let my young Thoroughbred horse run around just like Whitney before I ride him. Galloping and bucking the ya-ya’s out, makes him calm when I climb aboard. I’m glad Whitney is turning into such a star.

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:29 am

Wow, how interesting! Maybe I should start referring to Whit as a thoroughbred.

Judy Spock On May 22, 2012 at 5:22 pm

That is a vivid picture of your life with Whitney on tour. I couldn’t have imagined it. I had to see it through your words. I like knowing how she gets to gallivant around with you….and with all those spunky kids, too.

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:34 am

Fun to think of you seeing something through my eyes, Judy!

Nancy B On May 22, 2012 at 6:16 pm

“I have an opinion”….I love it! Way to go, kid! And I agree, I like your dog too!

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:40 am

Oh, and if only you could have heard him saying “I have an opinion” in that Long Island accent. I tried to portray the accent when writing this blog post but then thought better of it –the people there really and truly don’t believe they have one! But trust me, hearing him declare he had an opinion was so priceless, and I’m not kidding when I said I thought it would be something that challenged me, the Long Island accent is endearing but can come on strong, I was sure he had a complaint.
. What a pleasant surprise to hear this eight-year-old say instead that he simply liked my “dawg.” Glad to hear you do, too –!

Kim On May 24, 2012 at 8:48 am

Actually, in the south we say “dawg” (pronounced with 2 syllables. On Long Island they say “dowag” (one syllable). When I read your description for Nancy B., I could hear him saying it!

bethfinke On May 24, 2012 at 11:31 am

Thanks for the correction, Kim –duly noted, and I made the change on the blog post, too!

Carl On May 22, 2012 at 6:40 pm

Sounds like another great trip for you and Whit. Keep up the good work, but don’t wear yourselves out!

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 7:41 am

Oh, Whit will wear *me* out before I do that to her, trust me!

Bill Fryer On May 23, 2012 at 4:34 pm

Best thing I’ve read in weeks. It’s great to read something uplifting every once in a while.

bethfinke On May 23, 2012 at 6:48 pm

I’ll give Whitney a scratch for you, Bill –after all, she’s the one who provided the uplifting material!

Maria On May 23, 2012 at 9:51 pm

Beth, I’m so happy that you had a wonderful visit with Erica’s students, and the other first and second graders in Lindenhurst. I know that they truly enjoyed it! I’m so sorry that you couldn’t come to my school this year. Please let me know when you and Whitney are coming back to Long Island…I would love to see you and meet Whitney. My book club friends would love to see you, too. Dinner on my deck? Soon, I hope.

bethfinke On May 24, 2012 at 1:32 pm

You betcha!

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