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October 8, 2012 • Posted in Beth Finke, blindness, Braille, careers/jobs for people who are blind, guide dogs, parenting a child with special needs, public speaking, Seeing Eye dogs, Uncategorized, visiting schools, Writing for Children by

Whitney and I had a ball at the Youth Literature Festival in Champaign last week, and the highlight of the entire event was meeting Kayla, a delightful second grader at Westview

Whitney and Kayla took to one another…. (Photo by Chryso Mouzourou.)

Elementary School. I usually don’t let kids pet Whitney when she has her harness on, but this was an exception. Kayla is blind, and she’d never been near a guide dog before. The only way for her to see how Whitney’s harness works was to touch it.

This spunky little sprite slid right down to the floor to feel Whitney’s ears, too. And her tail. And her back. And her belly. At one point they were face-to-face. “She’s staring at me!” Kayla exclaimed in delight. “That means she likes me.”

It was true. And really, who wouldn’t like Kayla? The two of us had just met, and already I was learning a lot from her. “That must be why people stare at us sometimes,” I said with a laugh. “They like us, too!”

Before we visited Kayla’s school, Whitney and I had been treated to lunch with faculty, students and staff working on Special Friends, and they explained how the six-week program works to help average kids understand and appreciate children with disabilities.

For all six weeks, kindergarten teachers read stories about children with disabilities to their students three times a week. The Special Friends kindergarteners enjoy a 15- minute learning activity about disabilities three times a week, too. And then, the kids take home one of the books they read in class every week to read and discuss with family members. After this six-week concentration on disabilities, the Special Friends people I had lunch with Friday keep track of the kindergartners to determine the short- and long-term effects of this six-week program.

Westview Elementary, where Kayla goes to school, is one of the schools participating in Special Friends. If Kayla’s confidence and self-assurance is any indication, I’d say the six-week program is an unqualified success. When I complimented Kayla’s mom on what a terrific job she is doing raising her daughter, the mom told me Kayla has visited a couple special education students in college classes to give talks. “She comes in, says she’s blind, shows off her white cane, talks about learning Braille and tells them why they oughta like her,” her mom said with a laugh. “And by the end of the session, they do!”

And that’s when I got the idea. I invited Kayla to help us with our presentation during the festival Community Day. And so there we were the next morning, Kayla in one seat, me in the other, Whitney sandwiched between us. When it came time for me to show the SRO crowd how I use the “outside” command to have Whitney guide me to a door, Kayla whipped out her white cane to demonstrate how she finds doors, too. When we returned to our seats, a boy in the audience asked Kayla if she was going to get a dog.

Kayla didn’t answer right away, so I butted in and explained that you have to be at least 16 years old to train with a Seeing Eye dog. The Seeing Eye believes working with a guide dog demands a certain amount of physical, mental, and emotional maturity.

“In order to work with a Seeing Eye dog, you have to be with the dog all the time. You have to be the one who feeds the dog, grooms the dog, takes the dog to the vet when you need to – not your mom or dad, not your brother or sister or your grandparents – you,” I said, explaining how that’s all part of the bonding, how it helps the dog understand how important it is to keep their blind companion safe. “You guys in elementary school and middle school are busy all day learning stuff,” I continued. “You don’t get enough breaks during school to take your dog out to empty or give them the walks they need.”

Kayla is a good listener. She understood, and she had an answer for the boy’s question now. “When I’m 16, I’m getting one,” she declared.

I read from a Braille version of Hanni and Beth: Safe & Sound to the audience, and then handed it to Kayla as a gift. ”Thank you!” she gushed, and as she busied herself running her fingertips over the pages, I answered questions and explained tricks I use to do things at home: stretching a rubber band over a bottle of conditioner to distinguish it from shampoo, putting safety pins on the tags of anything I wear that’s black (paper clips for white), choosing dresses and skirts made of unique fabrics and interesting textures so I can use my sense of touch to keep track of what I’m wearing.

And then came my favorite question of the morning. A kid in the back row asked, “Kayla, what do you want to be when you grow up?”

Kayla’s answer: a fashion designer. “I want to design dresses and skirts,” she told the audience. “I’ll give them to all the girls to make them look pretty.”

Shelley On October 8, 2012 at 11:39 am

Awesome story and message about understanding. I wish I had been there.

Barbara Timberlake On October 8, 2012 at 11:40 am

Thanks for warming my heart and putting a smile on my face.

Hugs

Jen Amodt Ulen On October 8, 2012 at 12:10 pm

What a great story! I do love the picture too, clearly Whitney took a liking to Kayla as well, resting her sweet head on Kayla’s lap.

bethfinke On October 9, 2012 at 9:15 am

Yes. It was love at first touch.

Hava On October 8, 2012 at 12:10 pm

Kayla I love your can-do attitude and your indomitable spirit. I’m sure you will go places young lady, your dog at your side.

Kim On October 8, 2012 at 12:32 pm

What a fabulous kid! You cross paths with such interesting people, Beth. Thanks for using this blog to introduce Kayla and the rest of the fun folks I’ve met because of you.

bethfinke On October 9, 2012 at 9:21 am

I feel oh so lucky to meet so many interesting people, Kim, but you know what, there are TONS of interesting people out there, so I’m thinking it is something more than luck. Could it be somewhat due to the fact that I can’t see and am forced to *listen* to people to get to know them?
Dunno.
Just glad I meet these folks, and especially glad to have someone like you letting me know how much you appreciate meeting them through this blog,too – it keeps me writing!

ojdohertyJenny On October 9, 2012 at 8:17 am

Kayla sounds like a great kid, I want to meet her too!

Jenny On October 9, 2012 at 8:23 am

The rest of my comment didn’t post. I probably told you before about my first time touching a guide dog in harness when her owner came to visit my school. It made a great impression on me. and the dog’s name was Beth. Seriously 😀

bethfinke On October 9, 2012 at 9:22 am

Beth? For real? That is too much!

Bob On October 9, 2012 at 9:25 am

Was it really a SRO crowd? How many is that?

bethfinke On October 10, 2012 at 6:24 pm

Hmm. . I was told the room had 35 chairs, and event officials said that the room had lots of windows so it was easy to peek in, and when they did, they saw some people standing, others sitting on the floor.

Maria On October 9, 2012 at 9:26 am

I hope….Kayla gets a dog when she’s sixteen and becomes a designer to make all the girls look pretty. Something tells me after reading your latest post that she will! What a terrific young lady that Kayla sounds like. And what a great experience to work with you so closely during your visit.

bethfinke On October 10, 2012 at 6:27 pm

It was a terrific experience to have Kayla working with me — I wish I could “take her on the road” with me to other school visits — so great to have the kids in the audience asking her questions, and she was so poised in her responses. Fantastic.

penn nelson On October 9, 2012 at 10:18 am

Beth, it was great seeing you again, Barb now understands how great I think you are and all that you do, and what a treat to meet and listen to Kayla. What a treat just to see Kayla’s face light up when Whitney put her chin on her lap.
Meeting you husband Mike was an added treat, you make a great team!

All the best, keep in touch!

Penn and Barb

bethfinke On October 10, 2012 at 6:28 pm

Aw, shucks, Thanks so much for bringing Barb to the event, she is just as delightful as you described her. Also thanks for telling me Kayla’s face lit up when Whitney was there with her — I sensed Kayla was beaming, but fun to have that confirmed!

Rudy Lubov On October 10, 2012 at 11:19 am

Very touching story. The kindergarten project seems like a great idea.

Rudy J. Lubov rjlubov@aol.com rlubov@pdaonline.org 312-282-0459

Sent from my iPhone

bethfinke On October 10, 2012 at 6:30 pm

That is high praise coming from an education expert like you, Rudy. And you know what? I think you are right!

Charis On October 10, 2012 at 4:42 pm

Hi Beth,
This is is Charis from the Special Friends Project. Thank you for sharing your story. It was a pleasure to meet you and Kayla. I will keep an eye out for “Kayla’s Fashions” in the next few years or so.

bethfinke On October 10, 2012 at 6:36 pm

I’m with you, Charis — I want to be one of those “pretty girls” in a Kayla Designer Dress (I may be a “golden girl” by the time she time she turns 18 and goes to fashion school, but it still will be nice to match my dog –we’ll both be pretty goldens …ha!Really enjoyed meeting you at lunch Friday, and very much appreciated you coming out Saturday to see us too — I have a feeling Kayla may have made coming out on your day off worthwhile fory ou, she is a doll. and what a wonderful representative for a Special Friends school.

becky On October 13, 2012 at 9:32 pm

This is such a very special story. What a difference you have made in Kayla’s life. I’m with you — want to support Kayla’s Fashion! Has me reflecting on those people such as yourself that impacted me as I was in those learning stages (still am!) but helped me learned about guide dogs and so much more.

Deborah Darsie On October 13, 2012 at 11:18 pm

I LOVE the implementation of learning about disabilities and the age the school is providing this information to the kids.

I wish I could have been in the room to see your presentation! Kayla sounds like a wonderful young girl who will be an excellent creator of something awesome!

I brought the 2nd puppy I raised on a driving trip to visit family 800 miles away. While I was there I asked my 9 yr old nephew if his scout troop would be interested in learning about service dogs. It was an awesome half-hour or so of discussion, demo and Q&A.

Most of them knew the etiquette and the ones that did not learned some about it.

bethfinke On October 15, 2012 at 8:46 pm

Thanks for leaving a comment to my blog about your visit to the scout troop, Deborah. Never hurts to have a puppy at your side as an audio-visual, huh?!

Nancy On October 16, 2012 at 9:54 am

Your visit to Illinois sounds wonderful. I am a kindergarten teacher and will be looking forward to hearing how the study turns out.

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