Questions about the color black

January 20, 2016 • Posted in blindness, careers/jobs for people who are blind, guide dogs, questions kids ask, Seeing Eye dogs, travel, Uncategorized, visiting schools by
After the presentation, some of the kids got to see Whitney up close.

After the presentation, some of the kids got to see Whitney up close.

Last week was chock-full of school presentations for my Seeing Eye dog and me. I already wrote here about our Tuesday trip to Elmhurst. Two days later, Whitney and I got on another commuter train in Chicago to visit two more suburban schools.

“I’m blind,” I told a group of second-and-third-graders at our last session on Thursday at Barrington’s Countryside School. “Even when my eyes are open, all I see is the color black.” A second-grader’s hand shot up right then with an urgent question. “If all you see is the color black, then how do you know when you’re tired?” The questions went on from there:

  • Is it the kind of black you see when you’re sleeping, or the kind of black you see when you wake up and open your eyes?
  • How do you drive?
  • Do you walk everywhere?
  • If you can’t see red or green, how do you know when it’s time to cross the street?
  • How long did it take you to get here from Chicago?
  • How do you bake bread if you can’t see?
  • Do you see different kinds of black, like light black and medium black and dark black??
  • What’s wrong with your hand?
  • Do you get dressed all by yourself?
  • How do you tie your shoes when you can’t see your feet?
  • You mean you really can’t see any colors? I feel so sad for you if you can’t see colors.

Read over those questions again. Notice anything? Those Barrington kids asked far more questions about my blindness than about how Whitney does her job.

Know why? Because Cindy Hesselbein, the Reading Specialist at North Barrington and Countryside Schools, volunteers to raise puppies for Leader Dogs for the Blind in Rochester, Michigan. She and her husband and their four children are raising their sixth puppy for Leader Dogs now, and for years she’s brought them along to school every day to socialize the pups and educate the kids about what service dogs are.

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Mrs. Hesselbein, the other reading specialists and teachers had also seen to it that the kids had read Hanni and Beth: Safe & Sound before we arrived Thursday. All to say, these lucky Barrington kids know a lot about guide dogs. But what about this blindness thing?

I thanked the thoughtful boy who’d said he felt sad for me and tried to assure him that even though I can’t see, my life is still pretty colorful. “I just have to use my other senses to do things you do with your eyes.” I described how I read and write books, swim laps, bake bread, play piano, go to plays, meet with friends. “And if I wasn’t blind, I probably would have never known what it’s like to love a dog.”

That statement served as a perfect segue to point out how important people like their reading specialist Mrs. Hesselbein and all the other puppy raisers across the country are to those of us who use dogs to guide us. More than a dozen schools scattered throughout North America train dogs to guide people who are blind or visually impaired, and most place their puppies with volunteers like Mrs. Hesselbein until the dogs are anywhere from 14 to 18 months old.

Puppy raisers are not responsible for training dogs to guide, but they do teach important social skills, obedience and how to walk in a lead-out position (not like normal obedience training where the dog is behind you at your heel). Mrs. Hesselbein got a kick out of watching six-year-old Seeing Eye graduate Whitney turn her head left and right to scan the environment as she led me through North Barrington and Countryside Schools Thursday. “They don’t do that when they’re puppies,” she said. “It’s so fun to see the finished product!”

As for the thoughtful boy who’d felt sad for me, he must have really been pondering all this throughout our presentation. Before we left to catch our train back home, he raised his hand to tell me he didn’t feel that sad for me anymore. “Really, you’re lucky,” he said. I was expecting him to add something about how I get to bring my dog along wherever I go, that sort of thing. Instead, he surprised me with a new twist on the lemonade-out-of-lemons notion. “You don’t have to worry about ever getting blind,” he reasoned. ”You already are!”

Regan Burke On January 20, 2016 at 9:15 am

OMG. How do you know when you’re tired! All great questions but that one is priceless. I’ve been to Rochester – the trainers walk the dogs all over the little town. They look happy – the dogs, that is. Whitney is six? She acts like a puppy.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 9:38 am

Yup she turned six in December. Hard to believe…

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Bev On January 20, 2016 at 9:19 am

Brilliant! One less thing to worry about, Beth! Love what the kids come up with.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 9:41 am

Yes, in the teacher complimented him for having such a positive attitude. I liked it.

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Pat Fraser On January 20, 2016 at 9:21 am

Beth….I can’t start every day a little weepy….Love the tales from the road!!!

sharon kramer On January 20, 2016 at 9:29 am

a great blog. I love that little boy.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 9:42 am

Me, too!

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Cheryl On January 20, 2016 at 1:39 pm

That little boy’s eyebrows have to be as high as they possibly can rise. What a wonderful thought to come from someone so young.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 2:57 pm

Yes — eyebrows up!

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Mel Theobald On January 20, 2016 at 6:26 pm

Beth, he’s right about that, but you’re lucky in another way. You get to spend time with all those wonderful young minds. Today’s blog fondly reminded me of Art Linkletter’s “Kids Say the Darnedest Things.” So glad you’re living that dream.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 7:08 pm

Me, too.

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The Empty Pen On January 20, 2016 at 7:40 pm

My mouse icon was obscuring the d and r on the word dressed in the question “Do you get dressed all by yourself?” and I read it as “Do you get obsessed all by yourself?” Hmm, those Barrington kids certainly do ask interesting questions! Ahem.

It’s nice that the kids already had so much exposure to guide dogs.

bethfinke On January 20, 2016 at 8:17 pm

Yowsa!

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Benita Black On January 21, 2016 at 12:27 pm

I’m with Bev: one worrisome thing off your list! I love the question about the several shades of black; that child is destined to work at Sherwin-Williams.

bethfinke On January 21, 2016 at 10:50 pm

Agreed. And what fun it is to hear which of these wonderful questions moved our blog readers the most.

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Annelore Chapin On January 25, 2016 at 3:45 pm

There you have a REAL optimist – I love that little boy. Thank you for the smiles on my face, Beth.
Annelore

bethfinke On January 26, 2016 at 9:50 am

you are welcome. And you can bet that that little boy put a huge smile on my face, too.

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ojdoherty On January 28, 2016 at 12:03 pm

That little boy sounds great! He really was thinking during your talk.
It’s sometimes nice to get questions that aren’t all dog related for a change.

bethfinke On January 28, 2016 at 1:46 pm

Agreed!

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nancyfaustjenkins On January 28, 2016 at 11:43 pm

Wish I could have been there to meet the wonderful Mrs. Hesselbein and hear the kids.

bethfinke On January 29, 2016 at 6:34 am

Oh, Nancy, I wish you could have been there, too. You would have loved them all, and especially that young optimist. Temperatures were in single digits here in Chicago the week I did these particular school visits, though, so I’m glad you were safe & warm in the Southwest that week. There will be more school visits, I promise…

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Emily Clott On February 1, 2016 at 12:14 pm

I love your blog, Beth! The comments from the Barrington kids blew my mind. They are so authentic and thoughtful… really trying to grasp what it means to be blind. Most importantly, they are learning empathy, a virtue we really need to foster in children. I doubt that this (being blind) is a club you would have chosen to join, but your work brings meaning and purpose to the sight you have lost, and you’ve gained an insight that seeing people could only wish to possess. Kudos to you, Beth!

bethfinke On February 1, 2016 at 12:53 pm

Whoa. What a lovely, thoughtful comment. I am blushing. As for the “Being Blind” club, you’re right –it’s not one I would have volunteered for, but don’t we all belong to clubs we wouldn’t have opted for if we had the choice. I know from reading your memoirs that you do, Emily. Maybe it’s what we do with all we learn from our club memberships that matters? .

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Deborah Darsie On March 11, 2016 at 5:49 pm

I love how the 4 questions relating to color were so distinct and indicated a wonderful inquisitiveness.

Kudos to their teachers!

Beth, thanks for sharing your ‘field trips’ with us!

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