Saturdays with Seniors: Sharon Knew it was Bad

September 5, 2020 • Posted in guest blog, visiting schools by

Today’s blogger, Sharon Kramer.

I mentioned Sharon Kramer in Wednesday’s post — she is a graduate of the online Beth Finke Memoir Teacher MasterClass, and leads the Wednesday “Me, Myself and I” memoir-writing class on Zoom. Here she is now with a timely guest post about her first days of school back in 1945.

A Bad Start

by Sharon Kramer

In 1945 when I was ready to start kindergarten, I lived in a Chicago neighborhood that was secretly — and not so secretly — anti-Semitic. On my first day of school, an older boy called me a “dirty Jew.” I came home and cried. I had no idea what that meant but I knew it was bad.

The next day the same thing happened — with more voices. On the third day, I didn’t want to go to school. My mother kept me home for the rest of the year.

Kindergarten was no treasure for today’s guest blogger.

So, I never had the kindergarten experience, getting along with other kids, sharing paints, sitting in a circle. We moved to a different neighborhood, and when my mother tried to register me for 1st grade, she was told I wasn’t eligible because I had no kindergarten experience. I was put in a grade called 1C.

In 1946, the Chicago Public Schools had 1B’s for fall entrance, 1A’s for spring entrance and, I guess, 1C’s were designated as the “we don’t know where to put this kid so let’s put him in 1C” class. The 1C class at Peterson School was a small windowless room in the basement, next to the janitor’s closet. There were 12 boys and me. The boys were placed there because they disrupted the kindergarten class or couldn’t get along with others or refused to follow instructions. Miss Einhorn was the teacher. My desk was in the middle of the room, and I did my best to stay inconspicuous and said nothing the whole time I was there. I don’t recall any learning taking place. The boys were wild forces of nature, jumping on desks or fighting over a pencil or talking back to poor Miss Einhorn. Imagine a room full of six and seven-year-old characters like Don Rickles, Eddie Murphy and Richard Simmons all craving attention at the same time! The principal was often called to drag someone to his office or call a mother.

One day, Miss Einhorn, bless her heart, called my mother and told her to get me out of 1C. My mother marched to the principal’s office and demanded that I be put in a different class.

I was.

I would like to report that I thrived in 1B. Truth is, I missed the excitement of 1C. Now I sat near girls with folded hands and boys who stayed in their seats. The 1B classroom had windows, it was on the first floor, but it was a bit boring, even though we learned stuff.

The stigma of 1C stayed with me. I felt overwhelmed in a school setting and often just stared at what was going on around me instead of participating. 1C taught me that the safest route in life is to become as invisible as possible. I’ve missed out on a lot of adventures because of this perception of the world.

An early experience has the potential of changing you forever or maybe not at all. We never know. Schools — are you listening?

marilyn fisker On September 5, 2020 at 3:43 pm

That was so perfect!! What a great story.
I could really relate…I was in 1D and still am.

marilyn fisker On September 5, 2020 at 3:48 pm

That was so perfect!!! What a great story.
I could really relate…I was in 1D and still am.

Mel Theobald On September 5, 2020 at 6:51 pm

Sharon, I love this story, especially your summation. Were any of the name calling kids from kindergarten in the 1C class? If not, I was wondering why they weren’t there instead of you. An if they were, what happened? It is terrible when kids learn such prejudice at such an early age. Your Mom is the hero of this story. Thank you for telling it.

John DeStefanis On September 5, 2020 at 7:47 pm

If only parents realized how destructive and crippling it is to inflict their prejudices on their children. Isn’t the fact that they don’t a huge part of the reason our country is in the mess it is? Sharon, thank you for telling your story.

Anu Agrawal On September 6, 2020 at 12:11 am

A wonderful story. Very well written in so much detail. Loved it.

Sharon On September 6, 2020 at 5:33 am

Thank you Marilyn. It is not fun to be labeled.

Sharon On September 6, 2020 at 5:40 am

Thanks Mel. The name calling kids were from a different school but I would guess that my 1C classmates did their own name calling. It is no surprise to any of us that kids repeat what they hear at home.

Sharon On September 6, 2020 at 5:44 am

Thanks John. I agree with you. Just as I didn’t know what “dirty Jew” meant, the kids saying it probably didn’t either.

Sharon On September 6, 2020 at 5:47 am

Anu, thank you for your kind comments. I love your stories as well.

Sheila A. Donovan On September 6, 2020 at 2:23 pm

On Zoom when I heard it, it made me sad. Prejudice is passed on from generation to generation. My dad had a negative word for anyone who wasn’t Irish. (Kike, Frog, Whop, etc.) Those of Irish background also were called negative names by others. So ignorant! Luckily, I shed my father’s influence and became friends with every nationality (European) in my grammar school. In high school, there were only 2 black students in my class. One of them became best friends with me. I now live in a multi-racial, multi-ethnic high rise and everybody (well, most everybody) is friendly with each other. Equality of the races and genders will make the world more livable.

Annelore On September 6, 2020 at 4:52 pm

You’re powerful words really touched me Sharon, again. Your story fits very well into todays social inequality. not only schools, all of us need to listen.

sharon On September 6, 2020 at 6:02 pm

Thank you Sheila and Annalore for your comments. Many kids say things that they don’t even understand. Let’s hope that the coming generations do a better job.

Iliana On September 7, 2020 at 9:39 pm

Love the action-centric ending and how you found wisdom in a sad and hurtful experience, Sharon! Thanks for sharing.

Regan Burke On September 8, 2020 at 10:30 pm

Sharon! I too had no kindergarten, but I reacted differently, which I write about this week. I may use the same Dick & Jane image. I love your story. I feel like I know those boys. I mean I DO know those boys. I would have wanted to be with them too.

Sharon On September 9, 2020 at 9:46 am

Thanks Illiana. I appreciate your comments. I miss seeing you in person.

Sharon On September 9, 2020 at 10:21 am

Hi Regan. Thanks for your comments. If you were in my 1c class, I would have wanted to stay. How come you missed kindergarten? Look forward to finding out.

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